How do I find someone I keep seeing at the gym or my coffee shop?

Use the place as the opener

The best openers are about the place, not the person. The machine that's always taken, the new roast, the fact that you're both here at 6:40 again. It's low-stakes, it's true, and it gives them an easy way in or out.

Small, then again

Say one small thing this week. Next week, say another. Regulars have time on their side; you don't have to close anything today. By the third week you're nodding at each other and it's a conversation waiting to happen.

Respect the headphones

Gyms and cafés are where people go to be left alone as often as not. If the headphones stay in and the eyes stay down, that's the answer, and it's fine.

Misd, when you're both regulars

If you both have Misd, you already share a lot of Moments: same gym, same mornings. Open one and say hello there instead of between sets. It takes the pressure off the in-person moment and tells them you're a regular too.

Misd is invite-only; you can get a code on misd.co.

Questions people ask

Is it odd to message someone from the gym?

It's odd to keep at it if they don't answer. One friendly message that mentions the place you share is normal.

What if I don't know their schedule?

On Misd, a Moment shows when you overlapped. Otherwise: the same time you went last time.

Can they see me too?

Yes. A Moment is shared: the people in it can see each other. That's the point, and it's what makes it fair.

Is there an app to find someone you see every day but have never talked to?

Yes. If you both have Misd, the place you keep overlapping at becomes a Moment, and the person becomes someone you can message. Regulars are Misd's easiest case.